Domination, power exchange, and a world with love.

The exception of domination in a sexual context is possible in a world of love because of consent. I believe participating in kink on any level involves love. All elements are there and the importance of them stressed. They are acts of love between people, even if you do not choose to love this person as a romantic partner outside of play.

My experience is this. I crave a partner I can be of service to. I want them to let me make all the decisions for them because they don’t want to. Not mere indecisiveness, but a desire to be loved and cared for without worry. Who I can tell to fuck me harder, buy flowers for me at the grocery store, wash my hair, and who wants that just as bad as I want this. To be blessed with a partner who trusts me enough to give me this power: the power of control, of authority, of ascendancy. I believe this is possible and even healthy in a world of love.

In this society and many others before ours, sexual deviance “beyond the norm” has been so fucking stigmatized, punished, and deeply disrespected. This violence is so unnecessary to our lives. How we love is who we are. That never stays suppressed for long nor should it. In a better world, we live honestly, courageously, and passionately. With loyalty to our values and who we love. I see no reason why this should mean hiding our sexual preferences. Believe that I firmly push back against the current veil of shame and secrecy surrounding kink and BDSM, because that is a veil around love. It deserves to be burnt to ashes.